To the fantastic teacher who expressed her concerns to me the other day.
I am so glad you brought up the socialization factor. It is the other major concern for parents who are considering homeschooling (the other being concerns about being qualified) It is also probably the #1 argument against homeschooling by those who oppose it. In reference to those you have known who were homeschooled you said, “They lacked social skills, especially working within a team and confidence in themselves. They were not problem-solvers or risk-takers and struggled in decision making for their families and themselves.” The same can be said about a great number of public schooled students! Why is homeschooling to blame for those who experience these difficulties when traditional schooling is not? Could there be other explanations for these difficulties – such as the child’s personality or parental issues? Could it be that your “experience” with homeschooled students is lopsided because of your role in
Currently, 80% of homeschooling parents point out
We sent our older two to the public school for highschool. I wasn’t in favor of it, but my husband was. In hindsight, he says he wouldn’t do it again. Our daughter was bullied for months. She was threatened with
My kids were also seen as weird and not “team players” by those in their youth group and at school. However, a few years ago, one of their friends told me that the reason they seemed weird was because of his perception. In looking back, he told me, they were simply much more mature than most of the kids in the youth group and that they resisted going along with the “group think” mentality among those who were peer dependent.
I did not say that teachers currently believe the misconception that parents can’t teach their children. Only that the system, because of the way it is set up, instills that belief in those who grow up in it. I do believe that the system (not the teachers) is deeply flawed. My hat goes off to those of you who work within it! You are doing a fabulous job in spite of the limitations place on you. You have to put up with neglectful parents, pressures to teach to a test, and immense responsibility with limited authority to do it. I have often been told that I ought to go back to school and get my teacher’s certificate, but to be honest, I could not deal with the limitations you have. Please do not be offended by my criticism of the system. You are awesome!